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Co-parenting class helps parents take responsibility for plans

Tuesday, April 30, 2019   (0 Comments)
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By Cathy Tutty

A newly released, revolutionary, online co-parenting course offers the opportunity to embrace one’s past, its effects on relationships and children, and to forge a new path for the benefit of the children. That course is

Family law attorneys all know the drill. As the holidays approach, or just before big family events and vacations, your client is calling daily (or more often) to get your ‘advice’ on how to handle their former spouse. They want you to tell them it’s OK to change times, force a drop-off location, or in some way alter the written agreement that took a full day of mediation to draft.

And every family law practitioner also knows that:

  • You are not the parent;
  • You do not have control over your own client, let alone their ex; and
  • Nothing you can say will resolve this situation permanently.

It is the bane of our existence as family law attorneys when we are the arbiters of parenting time, the interpreters of parenting plans and the expected answer to how to really get parenting time to work.

After only a few cases, you have learned that the only way to really resolve issues in parenting is for the parents to be responsible for the situation, the children, their relationships and how it got to this place. Law school has left most of us ill-equipped to deal with these issues to reduce client calls during and after parenting plans have been created.

Co-Parenting Into the Future addresses the responsibility of the client for identifying, communicating and completely resolving every parenting issue with the intention of creating a powerful plan. Being responsible for their own parenting plans may be the one gift a client can give to their attorney in a family law case. This is a real probability for those clients who complete the program.

Designed by two divorced parents, the course guides participants through the often difficult look at their relationship and how they can create a future for their children that defies the odds and the difficulties set out above which face so many of our children. The course provides the opportunity to make an ongoing, post-divorce relationship with the other parent. It is interactive in its approach, including homework, listening as others struggle with similar issues in designing their futures, resources to assist you in communication and examples of how to develop workable agreements with the other parent. There are regular blog articles on a range of subjects such as holidays, resources, helpful books, money, the benefits of grandparents, and encouraging respect for and in our children.

In one instance in a Montana court, a client had an average of three daily contacts to her attorney to address parenting issues. Her stance heading into the mediation: She fully intended to force the matter to Court in the absence of her child’s father agreeing to her demands.

During the weekend before mediation, the attorney demanded that the client complete the program before the mediation began. While she resisted, the client completed the program and wrote for herself a full plan for caring for her child and parenting with her former partner. According to the client, “I took responsibility of my role in our relationship dissolving. I saw where I could change, and it left me being a mom first and foremost. I started to see what (her ex-husband) was seeing and how he wanted a relationship with our son. In fact, it shifted from MY son to OUR son. Once I saw that, drafting and following the parenting plan became simple.”

The attorney for this client reports that the client contact reduced to fewer than three contacts per month after completion of the course. Issues with the parenting plan are not always easily resolved, and the parties resolve the issues between themselves. Parenting of the child is final for attorneys on both sides, even though only one of the parties has completed the program. The client also reported, “I love OUR son now and have more compassion for myself and for my ex. What matters most is what is important for our son, not for either one of us.”

During decades of practice, we have all seen a wide range and array of resources. None of those resources is as transformational and effective as this program for many parents across six states.
For more information and to learn about the program, see You may also contact Martha Sasser at 832-643-5908.

Cathy Tutty is a solo practitioner from Butte.